More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster?ĭoes good intimacy always make for good sex?Įther Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion.

Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the 'X' back in sex.Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion.

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